I teach you to hold one boundary at a time. Meltdowns and screen fights get shorter within two to four weeks.
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The Lottery Words
A free guide: 9 everyday phrases that tell your child your no is still up for grabs, and what to say instead
The Boundary System
For ages 3 to 9. Hold one limit the same way every time. In two to four weeks, tantrums and screen fights get shorter.
The Teen Boundary System
For parents of kids 10 to 17. Screen fights, backtalk, lies and the closed door: the exact words for each. Hold one agreement for two to four weeks, and the fights get shorter.
Decode Your Child
For ages 3 to 9. A 10-module video course, with The Boundary System book included. You learn what is driving the meltdown, so you know your next move.
Your Personalized Parenting Plan
I write a plan for your child in two to three days. For a month after it arrives, I adjust it as you tell me how it went.
What parents write to me
Just wanted to message you and say thank you. We're still very much in progress, but evenings already feel calmer. Not perfect, not quiet, just less exhausting. I didn't realize how tired I was from all the negotiating until it stopped.
A parent, by Instagram message · The Boundary System
Thanks for making this so practical. I didn't need more theories, I just wanted to know what to do when emotions run high. I've already stopped overexplaining, and our evenings are a lot calmer now.
A parent, by Instagram message · The Boundary System
Hi Katy, I just wanted to say thank you for your book. We only started applying it recently and nothing is magically fixed, but I already feel different inside. I'm not constantly questioning myself or explaining everything 10 times. My kid still pushes, but it feels less intense. Honestly wish I'd found this sooner.
A parent, by Instagram message · The Boundary System